Layers of the Mind

Let’s be honest. There comes a moment in every parent’s life when your once-adoring child looks at you like you’re a walking embarrassment. Maybe it’s the way you sing in the car. Maybe it’s how you say “vibe check” unironically. Or maybe it’s simply because you exist. Welcome to the “cringe era”

What’s Going On in Their Brain?

Teenagers are wired for independence. According to developmental psychology, the adolescent brain is in full-on remodeling mode. That means they’re figuring out who they are and often, that means pushing you away a little so they can pull themselves closer. It’s not personal. It’s biology.

The Cringe Moments That Actually Connect

Funny enough, those awkward dad-jokes or dance moves you bust out in the kitchen? They’re secretly little anchors of safety. Teens roll their eyes, sure, but deep down those predictable “cringe” moments can bring a sense of stability and even connection.

The Psychology of Embracing the Cringe

Parents who model authenticity (even at the cost of looking silly) help their kids learn self-acceptance. When you’re willing to be vulnerable or goofy, you’re showing your teen that perfection isn’t the goal being real is. That’s powerful.

Tips for Surviving the Cringe Era

Laugh with them, not at them (or yourself). Keep showing up, even when they act like they don’t care. Don’t take the eye rolls personally. Leave space for connection on their terms.

So yes, I may be “so embarrassing” for bringing my teen Starbucks with a note that says “you’re my favorite notification.” But one day, they’ll remember the cringe and maybe, just maybe, they’ll smile.